BiblioSmiles – What Its Beautiful Beginnings Have Already Taught Me

“I don’t read anything anymore.”

That was my absolute first thought when Danielle told me the fabulous concept for BiblioSmiles back in January. BibS, as I like to refer to it, is a site dedicated to celebrate the joy of reading within an online community. It’s brand spanking new, but I see big things ahead for it. A ton of people have already submitted stuff like reviews and personal essays and even more have expressed interest in contributing. And oh man, I immediately wanted to be a part of it.

Seriously, it's the only thing I have.

Seriously, it’s the only thing I have.

My second thought was, “I have nothing to contribute.” I work at a PR and brand marketing company, where ‘office hours,’ are a joke, so I end up with a 60 hour work week stretched between HQ and home. How am I supposed to do a book review or talk about my favorite author when the last thing I read for pleasure was “The Year Ahead: 2014” edition of Bloomberg Businessweek?

So I provided my ‘professional’ opinion *cough* on things like contributors and blogging platforms and social media outlets and how her logo should be a replica of the Teletubbies Sun-Baby except with a picture of her shinning face. I know Gunnar put a lot of work into the current logo, but I still think mine had some potential.

So happy! Nicely done, sir.

So happy! Nicely done, sir.

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“No” Doesn’t Mean Anything on a Friday Night


So Chelsea, Emily and I go out for a few drinks Friday night, celebrating something, who really cares. After margaritas at a Columbian restaurant, we head to a bar we like. But there’s a cover for some crappy live music, and everyone in there looks like they have fathered many children, so we move on.

Next on our list is the Half-Penny Pub in Sayville, which has a cool setup and a lively atmosphere. The bartender is busy, but fun, attentive and good for a suggestion. We’re having a good time just the three of us, observing, drinking, chatting at the bar.



Enter Vinny and Frank. Vinny is an older dude. Frank is a younger, much drunker dude. The matchups have been decided – Vinny vs. Emily. Frank vs. Chelsea. Kim vs. The World.

To get right to the good part, Vinny buys Em a shot despite her saying, “I’m okay, got a full beer right in front of me.” (I decline the shot, I’m driving.) After the shot and some chatting, Vinny thinks he’s being slick when he leans behind Emily and begins his play with, “So, hypothetical situation-”

“A guy at a bar thinks this girl is cute, buys her a drink, and wants to get her number, but really wants her friends’ approval first.”

I made him repeat himself, because doesn’t that always piss you off? When you think you’re being cool and someone doesn’t understand you? “Wait, what?” So he repeats himself. And during his second run through Emily starts grabbing my knee, so the end game here is clear. This is my favorite part – where I get to be a bitch and there will be no repercussions. If I do a good job at being a bitch, I even get thanked for it. What could be better?

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Budgeting Autumn

This is my seriously phone background right now.

This is my seriously phone background right now.


I am so guilty of being in love with everything autumn – minus pumpkin mania.  Oh my God, now I’m a hipster too.  Ah well!

I want to buy all the coziest sweaters and the cutest boots, but I’m resisting.  I don’t do that very often, so I’m pretty proud of myself, even if it doesn’t sound like much.  As November peeks its head around the corner, right beyond it are student loans.  That’s going to be pretty tough.  I unfortunately have way more private loans than federal loans, making my interest payments high and the cost of late payments even higher.  I was trying to save up for them all summer.

Trying and failing.

But in the past two months or so, there’s been a bit more leftover at the end of each paycheck.  I’m hoping to get a weekend job for the holiday season, just to supplement that for a while!

To keep up the trend, I’m in the business of finding even more ways to save some dough.  It’s getting so cold that I think outdoor activities are behind us for the season.  So what else can you do for cheap, bordering on free?

Alicia let me crash at her place  in Queens for a few hours the other night. It was great to see her!

Alicia let me crash at her place in Queens for a few hours the other night. It was great to see her!


I want to find fun festivals and events to attend!  I unfortunately forgot today was the 23rd annual Long Island Maritime Museum Boat Burning in West Sayville.  THAT would have been fun, but my friends and I are all pretty busy.  With mid-terms and jobs and sports and families, weekends are all we’ve got and sometimes even those are all booked up.

Does anyone have any suggestions?  As it gets colder, what do you do for fun when you’re working on a low budget?



Staying Positive

The loves of my life.

The loves of my life.

I literally cannot believe it’s been two weeks since my last post.  It’s been two challenging weeks, so I’ve tried to spend every spare moment with my friends.  Being with the people I love is the best pick-me-up I have ever found.  They keep me going on days when that’s hard to do, reminding me of all the reasons I have to be upbeat and positive.

Positivity can be a challenge some days.  No matter how positive I think, sometimes putting it into practice is difficult.  But do you know what I did when late one night, I couldn’t find a positive thought in my head?  I turned my music up loud, and had a talk with myself.  I told myself not just positive, but motivating things, saying all my goals out loud and reminding myself why these were important to me.  I considered the consequences of failing.  And the chat with the mirror didn’t actually make me feel much better, but it spurred me into doing something that DID make me feel better, which was get on the treadmill and call my best friend for a nice long chat.

I’m not usually so great at picking myself up out of those ruts, but that pep talk was a great idea.  Maybe if I write my goals down and put them somewhere on the wall of my room, it will help me start that personal pep talk the next time I need it.

It’s a thought.

Recently some not so positive circumstances have hurdled themselves at my already hectic schedule, and I’ve had to temporarily re-prioritize a few things.  This pushed my personal goals to the back burner, which is why two weeks have passed since I’ve found the time to write anything.  But as things settle, I can begin to refocus.

I think I’ll use this moment to remind myself of the positive things I’ve got going on.  This will help jumpstart me back into a cycle of progress.

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